As you know, Jayson and I are currently working to save up money for the use of an egg donor. We know that it will be our next step, however we aren’t sure how soon we will be able to move forward due to the cost of the entire process.
I had e-mailed my nurse from the clinic in Wichita to ask her some questions regarding the egg donor process. Jayson and I were told that we would be required to attend a counseling session prior to moving forward with the process. The counseling session is about preparing you for this major step because there are many different emotions tied to it. They also walk you through whether or not you will tell your child you used an egg donor to conceive them and if so, they help you with points on how to have that conversation with them in the future.
I was writing to ask our nurse if this is something we could do in advance or if we had to wait closer to when we were ready to start the process. I also wanted to check pricing again and make sure that it didn’t go up for the new year – just what we need, right?
The nurse called me back the next day, however my phone never rang. She left a voicemail stating that she wanted to talk to me about some changes that were coming up. She said nothing bad, all good. She left me the voicemail on a Friday – they close at noon so I wasn’t able to call her back. She informed me in the message that she would call me back on Monday to discuss.
ALL weekend my mind was going crazy trying to figure out what these changes were. She said all good, so maybe, just maybe this meant good news for Jayson and me. Maybe we would be able to move forward with the process sooner rather than later.
Well Monday came and when the nurse called me, it wasn’t the news I was hoping for. The clinic is joining forces with KU med. So some of the appointments would be done in Wichita and the other done in KC. The egg bank they utilize would change, which the new bank is more expensive and the cost of the procedures are likely more expensive. Nothing bad, all good?!?! Not so much!
Now in the defense of my nurse, this is good news for the clinic. They will be able to do IVF basically every month, instead of only 5 times a year. Patients will have more choices of when they are able to start their IVF cycles, etc. However for Jayson and I, it wasn’t great news because for us, it just means we will be paying more money. They plan to have their last full cycle in Wichita in April. It would be ideal if we could move forward in April so we didn’t have to pay the extra thousands of dollars, however financially that isn’t even a possibility for us since the full cost has to be paid up front.
Monday afternoon I was pretty down and feeling really sorry for Jayson and myself. Will we ever catch a break? Why do we keep running into obstacles? This isn’t fair!!!!
As always, I know that God is in charge and it’s all about His timing and His plan. I have NEVER been good at patience but this is one thing that I’ve had to learn to be better at throughout this fertility journey. I can’t force things and I’m definitely not the one in control, no matter how hard I try, it’s not my will – it’s God’s.
With love,
Haley